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There will be a web-site for the Families Of Richmond,Calif- for support -grief sharing, just talking about things that need immediate attention shortly.
Teresa Rios
10/26/2009
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Self help support groups, I am the founder of Mothers Against Senseless Killings (M.A.S.K.) of Richmond, Ca. Our group formed in June 2003. We were awarded a grant in 2005 from OVC/DOJ to help our prog...
Charlene Harris
03/27/2006
arrow icon I don't have any other suggestions than the excellent ones o...
Debbie
09/28/2006
arrow icon Hi Davie:I would like to express my condolesances to you and...
Charlene Harris
09/19/2006
arrow icon HI my name is Davie Lee my son was murdered Sept. 4, 2006 I ...
Davie Lee
09/19/2006
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How do I become a member and register with your oganization?
Cynde Nichols
01/06/2006
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Just now had an opportunity to read your Web Forum questions on POMC. Thnaks for this opportunity. I work in a Victim Assistance Program and provide services to only families of homicide victims. i do dea...
Sharon Simon
10/10/2005
arrow icon Dear Cheryl from Canada: I would be gald to supply you with...
Sharon Simon
09/20/2006
arrow icon Here in Barrie, Ontario there is nothing for the victims. I...
Cheryl from Can
09/20/2006
arrow icon Hi, I too work only with homicide survivors and would love f...
jill garvin
03/20/2006
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I am a victim advocate emloyed through the local D.A.'s office. Etowah County does not have any support groups for homicide survivors. I am interested in starting a support group, but do not know exactly...
dbrittain
10/10/2005
arrow icon The Stephanie Roper Foundation at 14750 Main Street, 1B, Upp...
Keller, C
05/24/2006
arrow icon Did you find some help with starting a group? We have 4 hom...
jill garvin
03/20/2006
arrow icon You may want to partner with your Hospice or other Bereavem...
janice
12/22/2005
arrow icon You might get some advice from an organization here in Color...
Debbie
12/08/2005
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I have parents of murdered children and there are no chapters in my area, the grief is so intense, they need someone to talk to who can say I understand and they really do. How do you take the first steps ...
renee s
09/16/2005
arrow icon Hello, I am the parent of a murdered son, a volunteer at the...
Carol
11/09/2005
arrow icon Hi there, what area do you live in, or your parents? I work...
jill garvin
09/21/2005
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What type of assistance is available for parents going through the murder trial, such as what's going to happen during the trial and what to expect?
Yvonne W
09/07/2005
arrow icon I would like a copy of the book also.
Linda McDannald
05/01/2006
arrow icon I can get it for you through the POMC. Send your address to...
YVONNE
03/01/2006
arrow icon Where can I get a copy of the Path Through The Criminal Just...
pomc
02/28/2006
arrow icon Please send me your e-mail address (offline) or call me at 6...
Yvonne W
09/08/2005
arrow icon I am a forensic psychiatrist and am familiar with the procee...
M Arambula
09/08/2005
arrow icon POMC has a booklet called Path Through The Criminal Justice ...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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Does POMC offer any training for victim advocates?
Deb Kusber
09/07/2005
arrow icon Yes, we have an Effective Leadership Training each year in O...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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What recommendations (literature, a particular approach, important considerations) do you have for those offering clinical counseling for a parent whose child was murdered by the other parent? It seems tha...
Becka
09/07/2005
arrow icon Within POMC, we have a networking of murders commited by spo...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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In working with parents of murdered children it is so easy to become enmeshed in their pain. Is there a proper way to encourage and support them without becoming an "enabler"?
Kathleen
09/07/2005
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Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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I am about to embark on Missing Children's Day here in Florida for the first time as a victim advocate. I have a family who's young daughter was brutally murdered, how do I go about dealing with this fami...
Gwen
09/07/2005
arrow icon Most family members are not offended by getting referrals to...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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I have recognized lately that several survivors of homicide I have worked with have developed major health problems, one being fibromyalgia. Is this common and to be expected with victims of violent crime?...
linda sorenson
09/07/2005
arrow icon I am not aware of a common association between FM and victim...
M Arambula
09/09/2005
arrow icon Health problems are almost expected with survivors of homici...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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Can you tell us about the grief retreat weekends and murder-response team training?
Amy/Denise
09/07/2005
arrow icon Could you please email me info on your Murder-Response Team ...
Terri Young
10/10/2005
arrow icon Would it be possible to obtain a copy of the training curric...
Amy Ortwein
09/07/2005
arrow icon Grief Retreat weekends are done by Jean Lewis, mother of a m...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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In a school setting, what are the best steps for educators to take in helping a student get back on track with his academic life after such a tragedy?
sara
09/07/2005
arrow icon Provide time and do not expect that in a month or two they s...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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END GUEST HOST SESSION - Thank you for participating in OVC's Web Forum Guest Host Series. We hope this discussion will help you better serve crime victims. Please continue to discuss this and other topics...
OVCRC
09/07/2005
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Please discuss some of the best ways to help parents of murdered children through the first few hours after the death notification process. Generally, there are counseling services and support groups who m...
Joni Phillips
09/07/2005
arrow icon Within the first few hours they need information. They need ...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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How can states collectively utilize homicide survivors to assist with effective intervention in the aftermath of a murder or homicide death of a loved one? Should states provide monetary resources to organ...
Marvin M Bryant
09/07/2005
arrow icon Networking and ensuring that organizations, AG's office, sta...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
arrow icon Couldn't this be accomplished through the local POMC, the Vi...
Yvonne W
09/07/2005
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I have a dog bomb case where the mother of the murdered victim refuses to speak to anyone, including her husband, about the crime against her son. It has been about 3 years and the case is just getting rea...
Deb Kusber
09/07/2005
arrow icon POMC does not have literature in Mandarin. But I would sugge...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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Could you address the issue of the impact of violent death on the surviving siblings in the family? What are the challenges they face and how can we help?
Dr. Langosch
09/07/2005
arrow icon I am truley sorry to hear about the murder of your son. As f...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
arrow icon You can contact me at our toll free number 888-818-7662 or b...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
arrow icon Nancy's answer is excellent. Might I also suggest using the...
nmsohadvocate
09/07/2005
arrow icon Thank you for your helpful response. I would welcome an oppo...
Dr. Langosch
09/07/2005
arrow icon My son was shot 11 times and left on a cold, dark street to ...
Yvonne W
09/07/2005
arrow icon POMC considers the siblings as the forgotten survivors. Too...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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What do you say to a parent whose child has been murdered, they have other children, yet the parent says they have nothing to live for?
Shirley Harbin
09/07/2005
arrow icon Jean's answer is powerful. The sad reality to this question...
nmsohadvocate
09/07/2005
arrow icon As a bereaved parent, a victim advocate for survivors of hom...
nmsohadvocate
09/07/2005
arrow icon First of all you justify their feelings and make sure that t...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
arrow icon Ask them in a gentle way if the murdered child was the only ...
Jean Pascale
09/07/2005
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Solicitation protocol for victims' families: please clarify what types of solicitations and in what manner are appropriate to do with victims' families. Many victims' families want to be solicited to help ...
Nancy Sabin
09/07/2005
arrow icon Through your newsletter, website or whatever other source of...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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How can I help a family that clearly needs outside support services but for one reason or another ( i.e. cultural reasons)are reluctant to use the available resources?
1Advocate
09/07/2005
arrow icon You might wish to sign up for OVCs workshop, Providing Cultu...
Rick Custer
09/12/2005
arrow icon Patience, patience, patience - Cultural diversity training i...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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Many of us work with victims of domestic violence. Some victims, for a variety of reasons, end up killing their abuser. Do you ever work with the parents of a murdered child who was also an abuser, and if ...
Ben Zeman
09/07/2005
arrow icon Thanks so much! I agree completely - we should always be ab...
Ben Atherton-Ze
09/07/2005
arrow icon My background was working with domestic violence, rape, etc....
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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The Victim Assistance Unit (VAU) of the Denver Police Department (DPD) typically provides the official death notifications for the DPD within the City & County of Denver. I am interested in explori...
Scott M. Snow
09/07/2005
arrow icon My first suggestion would be to get extensive training from ...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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I've been working with crime victims for many years as an advocate. Parents often tell me the pain never goes away, sometimes it gets worse as time passes. What can I say to "new" victims...
Lois Ferguson
09/07/2005
arrow icon After documenting over (100)suvivors/victims here in Richmon...
Charlene Harris
03/28/2006
arrow icon Let them know that grief comes in cycles, the pain can go aw...
Charlene Harris
03/27/2006
arrow icon You can tell them that No, the pain never does go away but t...
Jean Pascale
09/07/2005
arrow icon Nancy is right on. The old thought that people go through t...
nmsohadvocate
09/07/2005
arrow icon If you haven't lost a child yourself, you probably don't hav...
nmsohadvocate
09/07/2005
arrow icon The pain never goes away, but depending on the support, the ...
Nancy Ruhe
09/07/2005
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